Dating an olderman
He introduced himself and inquired about what we did for a living.
When I told him I was a writer, he became intrigued.
I met Bob at a restaurant on a summer afternoon in 2014.
I was enjoying a glass of white wine and sharing an entree with a good friend when he sat down next to us at the bar.
But this was the first time it occurred in person and with such aggression.
Two years earlier, my relationship of nearly a decade ended.
But just as I was about to leave, Bob admitted that he was not that interested in me as a writing coach, but as a romantic prospect. Yet when I rejected him, he looked stung and startled, as though he was completely unaware of our significant age difference.I thanked him for his interest, but let him know that that wouldn't be happening. He asked me to reconsider and retain “an open mind.” I felt frustration and anger boil up inside me as I looked at this man three decades my senior, who had manipulated me into a meeting under false pretences and then dismissed my refusal of his advances as close-minded. Instead, I ignored his emails until he finally gave up.Being hit on by men who are considerably older was not new to me.At 20, she had me and for the next three years, my father harassed her over money (she made much more than him); he also let her know that, while she may have had straight As in high school, he, a junior high dropout, was the smarter of the pair.By 24, my mother was divorced and saddled with a kid while my dad returned to being an eligible bachelor who continued dating young adults.Shortly after I completed college, my dad confided in me that he had never loved my mother.When I asked why he married her, he told me it was because he was ready to have a kid and she was young and pretty - and if he had a daughter, he wanted her to be pretty, too.I specified that I would date men in their early thirties to early forties - “no exceptions", I wrote.A few men didn't listen, but I managed to weed out most of them.Eventually, we arranged to meet at a cafe near my apartment.At the meeting, we spent over an hour discussing his writing.